TOP 10 BOOKS FOR PARENTS
We’re really pleased with the fact that today’s parenting is more and more aware. One of the main features that characterises modern parents is their approach to the subject matter – they seriously get deep into it! And how? Through READING. Of course, it’s still more of moms’ domain, but they excel at passing that knowledge to the dads who might read slightly less 😊 Those changes result in an abundance of guides and books related to parenting and raising children. There’s really quite a lot of worthwhile titles, but there’s simply not enough time to read most (not to mention all!) of them, so that’s why we’ve decided to present our list, limited to the secure and well-tested works. Here’s our TOP 10:
1. Dziewczynka zza zasłony. Uzdrawianie wewnętrznego dziecka – Stella Veritas-Amare
This title is quite new and doesn’t figure as a classic guide for parents. However, it touches upon the subject of the child’s mental safety in such an accessible way that it should be one of the top numbers on the list. The book is the result of a therapeutic process of a woman who had to deal with serious traumas in adult life because of the way she was raised as a child. Showing the world through the eyes of a child, in a way, enables us – the adults – to see how even the seemingly harmless words and situations can hurt and stay within a child. The book is memorable and definitely changes our attitude. It should be a mandatory position for pedagogues and parents.
2. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk – Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
Compiling a literary list for parents obviously couldn’t exist without this one 😊 This is a true classic. The book contains probably all the necessary basics needed to establish good relations with a child. It covers the age when a child is able to communicate verbally. Presented in the form of a workshop – it’s filled with numerous examples of situations, descriptions of specific behaviours, as well as many exercises to complete. The book was created based on multi-annual workshops conducted between the authors and parents. Other titles in that series follow a similar pattern. Especially Siblings Without Rivalry.
3. Duże sprawy w małych głowach – Agnieszka Kossowska
This title is great not just for parents, but also for children because they are the main characters and they use their children language. It’s rumoured that a book like this is exactly what the Polish market was missing. It touches upon the subject of disability in a broad sense (mobility impairment, sensory disability, intellectual disability). The author describes a life of a disabled person, but she also underlines the beauty of diversity – both in life and the world. You won’t find moping or pity in this book – instead, you’ll get specific messages, an abundance of knowledge and a professional approach to disability – with no fear. The title teaches us what equality, respect, empathy, tolerance, and help ACTUALLY mean.
4. Mamy dla Mamy. Tom I – ciąża i Tom II – macierzyństwo
The top position for new parents. It mentions the most various matters, starting with the formal official business, through pregnancy, the birth of a child, all the way to its development and health. The volumes cover a wide subject area and are a true compendium – perfect for people who don’t like to read through multiple books, but rather just one that is more comprehensive and can be referred to again, later on. Its other advantage is that it conveys current, reliable knowledge, based on Polish reality. Despite its spaciousness, everything is described concisely and substantively. The book is a project that over 1000 women have participated in.
5. The Attachment Parenting Book: A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby – William & Martha Sears
The book covers the subject of newborns since their first moments of life. It’s based on scientific studies; it explains the psychologic theory which suggests that the quality of our social and familial relations depends on the “responses” of a caretaker/parent to the needs of a child from their first moments of life. It underlines and clarifies the importance of the titular attachment in the family life; written by both parents. The prime advantage of that book is its form – it doesn’t dictate specific rules, but rather gives you tips and tools to take action.
6. The Continuum Concept – Jean Liedloff
A work that should be read by everyone – not just parents or soon-to-be parents, but any thinking individual. The book is presented from a very interesting perspective – the author draws her conclusions based on the observations of a Native American tribe. She talks about what actually drives our behaviours. It’s not written in a scientific form and the pieces of advice aren’t supported by any studies, but – based on her logic and intuition – the author makes really accurate remarks that give food for reflection.
7. Baby-led Weaning. Helping Your Baby Love Good Food– Tracey Murkett, Gill Rapley
How to introduce different types of food into a child’s diet? You’ll find out in this book. A guide devoted to the subject of a baby’s nutrition is truly perfect for every mum. It explains, in an accessible way, the rules of baby-led weaning – a natural method of introducing various foods to a child. Using the tips provided in the book will most definitely eliminate the potential “poor eater” problem in the future.
8. Idealny rodzic nie istnieje – Kamil Nowak
The book is characterised by very simple and blunt language. Written by a father – not a pedagogue or a parenting specialist – as emphasised by the author himself. It’s based solely on personal experience, which boosts its authenticity. It contains numerous meaningful illustrations – perhaps even too many – but after all, images leave a longer-lasting impression 😊 It’s very optimistic and has a huge dose of humour; it’s lightsome, casual, but at the same time valuable and heartening. It presents a different perspective on parenting in times where everything needs to be perfect.
9. Rodzice w akcji. Jak przekazywać dzieciom wartości – Monika & Marcin Gajda
First of all, it’s important to acknowledge that this book conveys catholic values, but, in its entirety, it’s so universal and practical that anyone could relate to it. The subject of faith is in there, but it isn’t the main focus. The work shows how to talk and get through to children, to teach them the right values, how to be independent, and how to set proper boundaries. It contains anecdotes from the authors’ lives, humour, and useful tips.
10. Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life – Stuart Shanker, Teresa Barker
Last but not least! The form of this book is definitely more demanding, due to the number of references to studies and all the scientific phrases, but it’s really worth the effort. We live in times when our children are exposed to much more pressure (Internet, social media), compared to the past, and that is why it’s important to familiarise yourself with this book. It contains an abundance of knowledge in the field of the functioning of our mind and emotions, it explores the self-regulation method, thanks to which a child will learn how to transform their behaviour and emotions. What should you advise a child who is frustrated, impulsive, encounters difficulties? This is where you’ll find the answer 😊
Translated by: Konrad
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